101 Ways To Be Prettier, Sexier, and More Seductive
This set of short tips is based on my encyclopedic Dispelling Beauty Lies, the best and most-banned beauty resource on the internet. I've cut out all the analysis and charts and explanations and nuances to give you simple, clear advice you can use right now.
The tips aren't arranged in order of importance. I've put the easiest first and saved the most powerful for last. If you want to understand why they work, you're invited to read Dispelling Beauty Lies in full. But they'll work whether or not you understand the reasons.
A few of these tips are already well known. But many of them directly contradict things you've heard from other beauty "experts." Well, those experts are wrong. Try it my way and see what happens. You might be surprised.
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1. Throw out your flesh-colored lingerie.
All of it. It's not hot, it's not seductive, and you don't need it. Yes, I know, you're totally convinced you need it. But you don't. Honestly. There are better colors that are also invisible under white shirts.
2. Replace your flesh-colored lingerie with lacy lingerie in black, white, red, and pink.
These are the colors that are the most attractive and seductive. The difference is real. And yes, all your lingerie should have a little lace. All as in A L L. Including what you wear to work.
3. Figure out which bra color disappears under a white shirt on your skin. Other than beige.
For most women something in the pink-mauve-red range works. Wear this whenever you used to wear beige.
4. Stop wearing clothes that don't fit. Especially at the waist.
Because so many people are fat today and everything is mass-produced in China, clothes on the rack are made to fit badly. It's very important to find clothes that fit at the waist, hips, and bust.
5. If none of the clothes at the store fit your measurements, buy clothes that stretch, or hire a tailor.
Men judge everything in relation to the waistline. If your clothes make it invisible, you won't look your best. Do not skip this step.
6. Throw out your camo clothes.
Colors in the camo range are unattractive on women. Toss any clothes in these colors. Yes, that includes olive green as well as beige, tan, etc. The only exception is tan pants, which are sometimes okay, but still usually not great.
7. Wear mainly pink, black, white, and red.
These are the most attractive colors, and they're less limiting than they seem. There are many varieties of pink, which each have their own meaning. Red is especially good for accents.
8. Wear alternative colors once a week for variety.
Jewel tones like turquoise, purple, and emerald are great to stay interesting and stand out from the crowd. Yellow and peach usually aren't great colors, but wearing them once in a while can still work, since variety itself is attractive.
9. Ignore fake beauty "type" systems.
It's tempting to think you can make hard decisions easier by following systems keyed to your "type." But these systems are mostly fake. The advice they give is often wrong. Don't let their sciencey veneer fool you into wasting your time.
10. Don't get tattoos of any kind ever.
Tattoos are ugly and not sexy. Sex workers have them only because they make you look easy. Maybe that's good for their business, but it's not good for anything else. Clean, pure skin is the most attractive.
11. Don't pierce anything other than your ears.
And only one piercing per ear.
12. Ignore anyone who says no makeup is best.
Men don't know the difference between natural-look makeup and no makeup. Makeup always looks better. Always. And especially if you're older. Going out without makeup doesn't prove anything. It just makes you uglier for no reason.
13. Thicken your eyebrows and don't overshape them.
A common beauty error is to thin your eyebrows out to force them into an arch. There's nothing special about an arch shape. Instead, just focus on making your eyebrows dense, clearly defined, and thick.
14. Don't hollow out your cheeks.
The most attractive women have full cheeks. Using cosmetics, dieting, or surgery to create the appearance of hollow cheeks is a mistake that makes women look older. If you have full cheeks, enjoy them while you can.
15. Don't waste time and money on expensive handbags.
Handbags barely affect your beauty unless they're super ugly. That's because they're perceived as external to your body. And brand names don't matter at all. Don't confuse consumerism with beautification.
16. Don't obsess over shoes.
You need to have five or ten pairs of shoes, but you don't need a lot more. Unless you're a professional model, buying a million shoes is more about hoarding than beauty.
17. Do show off your feet.
Feet are more attractive than hands in women. Not shoes, bare feet. Wear shoes that reveal your toes, and use poses that show off the bottoms of your bare feet.
18. Wear your hair long.
The "cute" short hairstyle your friends told you to try is not actually cute. Long hair is more attractive. The fact that people can keep lying about something so easy and obvious shows just how dishonest public discussion about beauty really is.
19. Don't dye your hair wacky colors.
Pink hair is the most attractive weird color, and men like it in images. However, they don't like it in real life. Avoid unless it's a costume.
20. Do consider dyeing your hair blonde or red.
Blonde or red hair will sometimes boost your sex appeal, even if they're not natural colors for your ancestry. That said, they're not a good idea for everyone.
21. Wear your nails medium length or short.
Long nails are not actually attractive. I don't know how this weird myth got started.
22. Use a clear polish or paint your nails pink. And stop obsessing.
Nails are nowhere near as important as you've been told. Don't waste time obsessing over nailcare. Clear and pink are the best colors. Shades of red are also good occasionally. Weird colors usually don't work.
23. Don't tan.
Tanning doesn't make you hotter, but it does age your skin. That's not a win. Get enough sun for your health, but not more.
24. Wear heels as often as you can.
Heels are important because they improve your posture. Not because the heels themselves are sexy. They help you curl in your lower back and walk with a swaying gait, both of which make you more attractive. A few inches is enough to work.
25. Dress conservatively in public but provocatively in private.
There can be a massive gap between how you look in public and how you look in private. Some of the following recommendations are for risque clothing. But I'm not necessarily recommending you wear it in public. Being conservative in private doesn't help anyone.
26. Buy multiple pairs of thigh-highs. And wear them.
Thigh-highs are a free boost to your sex appeal. Own lots of them in different styles. And wear them. You don't have to wear them every single day, but they'll still work on men even if you do.
27. Wrap something around your neck.
Wrapping something around your neck increases your sex appeal and looks beautiful as well. Chokers are the obvious answer, but even turtlenecks help. The images below show how easy this is.
28. Don't wear animal print, wear juvenile print.
Animal print is not actually sexy. Avoid. If you have a young-looking face and a high cute factor, wear juvenile-print lingerie sometimes. It's the only exception to the "all lingerie must have lace" rule.
29. Wear pleated miniskirts for the schoolgirl look.
Pleated miniskirts have high sex appeal, especially in plaid. You might not be able to wear them to work, but that doesn't mean you can't wear them elsewhere. Great combined with thigh-highs or boots.
30. Use the braless look with discernible nipple imprints when you can get away with it.
This is mainly a trick for flat girls, who get a big boost in sex appeal. If you're not flat, you can't use it in public, but it's still a good trick for a private setting in formal clothes.
31. Surprise your lover with animal ears.
Animal prints aren't sexy, but animal ears are. That's because they have a high cute factor and a big variety effect. A few men hate them, but they're a turn on for most. Give them a try and see how he reacts.
32. Always wear sexy clothes around the house, even and especially when you're doing chores.
Wearing ugly or boring clothes when you're at home is a dumb thing to do, but most girls do it anyway. This is exactly when you should be trying to wear things that excite your lover.
33. Ignore fashion trends, but chase fashion variety.
Fashion trends have very little influence on your attractiveness, but variety keeps a long-term relationship exciting. Change your clothing style occasionally so he doesn't get bored. And don't wear the same thing every day!
34. Take selfies at a proper distance.
When you hold your camera too close it distorts your face. The more angular your face, the worse the distortion. Ten feet is a good distance for photos. Look at the huge difference.
35. To draw a man in, alternate between showing interest and affection and being ambiguous and unavailable.
This is a pre-relationship seduction strategy. It's not a good idea when you're in an established relationship.
36. Attack with the cute.
If your face has a high cute factor, use it. Women underestimate the power of cuteness and overestimate the power of sophisticated elegance. Use cute expressions like winks more often, and behave a little younger and cuter than you're naturally inclined to.
37. Flirt with your voice, not your words.
Vocal tone is more than half of flirting. Indirectly drawing attention to your most attractive features while using a flirty vocal tone is extremely seductive. You can hear examples here.
38. Learn to use a real sexy voice. Not a fake Hollywood sexy voice.
Talk in a slightly higher range with cuter intonation and more breathiness. Enough to be noticeable, but not enough to sound artificial. You can hear examples here.
39. Lose the potty mouth.
Vulgar language isn't classy or attractive or feminine. I'm not telling you you have to speak prudishly about sex. Just don't pepper your speech with unnecessary vulgarity.
40. Don't be excessively proud and self-obsessed.
Perceptive men can read your personality on your face. Believe it or not, some of the deadly sins are unattractive. A little vanity is actually a good thing. However, excessive pride and self-centeredness is not.
41. Avoid the anti-seductive attitudes promoted in the media.
In addition to excessive pride and self-centeredness, anti-seductive attitudes also include aloofness and disdain for others. These attitudes are not sexy in women, even if the media tells you they are.
42. Cultivate genuinely seductive attitudes.
A mixture of cuteness and lustiness held back by bashfulness, fear, or coyness is usually the most seductive, but there are several ways to bake the cake. Study these images and learn to cultivate and express the moods they represent.
43. Be coy, not confident.
Coyness, which means perceptibly fake bashfulness, is one of the most attractive attitudes. Confidence, by contrast, isn't nearly as appealing in women as you've been told. So mix in coyness when you're being flirtatious.
44. Develop actual interests.
Most girls today are addicted to watching influencers and cat videos and have no interests, hobbies, or talents. Interests make you more interesting. They make you stand out and give you something to talk about. Develop an interest and get involved.
45. Turn off the smarts when it's sexy time, and act airheaded instead.
Intelligence is attractive to intelligent men. But there's a time and a place. Intelligence doesn't mix well with the closing game of seduction, which is supposed to be about instinct, not intellect.
46. Put more effort into seduction the longer you're in a relationship.
At the start of a relationship everything works. That's because men love novelty. But repeating what you did at the start doesn't work. Seduction becomes more important the longer a relationship lasts.
47. Don't waste time, but don't give up.
Feminine beauty usually peaks around age 21, as everyone knows. That doesn't mean women hit a wall at 30 and are suddenly ugly. You can stay attractive for a long time. So don't give up, but don't waste your youth either.
48. Consider older men.
Men care about youth a lot more than you do. If you aim a little older than you've been thinking, you can make a better catch. As a bonus, he'll always consider you young due to the age gap. If you stay together for the long run, that'll turn out to be a big bonus.
49. Don't do drugs.
Addictions aren't just bad for your health. They make you undesirable for relationships too. Hard drugs in particular are a dealbreaker for most men.
50. Stop consuming violent porn.
Violent porn is not at all a representation of what men want. In fact, it's extremely misleading. Men want to be wanted, they don't want to choke you. Getting addicted to this type of porn will make your relationship less satisfying for both of you.
51. Don't sleep around.
Sleeping around makes you less attractive. You can use all the tips on sex and seduction on this site and still not sleep around. Sexy and promiscuous are completely different things.
52. Don't prostitute yourself.
Sex workers don't necessarily have trouble finding mates, so is it really such a bad idea? Yes. Sex workers do find mates, but sex work still reduces their appeal and limits their choices. They find worse mates than they otherwise could have.
53. Don't be a prude.
This tip is supposed to put the previous few in perspective. If you're too prim a schoolmarm you're more likely to become a spinster. If you want to wait till marriage that's fine. Just don't repress yourself into a sexual straitjacket.
54. Be lusty, not frigid.
Frigidity is a massive turn-off. Acting frigid and waiting for a man to conquer you might work in stories, but it doesn't work in reality. Have a sex-positive attitude.
55. Advertise your lustiness and your chastity at the same time.
This goes with the previous tip. A high sex drive is attractive, a high body count is not. What's most attractive is having a high sex drive and not sleeping around. This might seem contradictory, but it isn't.
56. Maintain hormonal health that maximizes your libido.
High libido makes you more attractive, makes seduction easier, and it's a good sign of good health too. Make sure you're taking care of your body. If you're experiencing low libido, take steps to heal yourself.
57. Have sex more often.
Quantity matters, and men want more. Your lover will be more satisfied with your relationship if you have sex frequently. This shouldn't mean forcing yourself. Following the previous tip, living a low-stress life, and always making time for it is the best way.
58. Don't expect sex to work like it does in the movies.
This tip is for kids. Adults know. Your first time is almost certain to be mediocre. Keep your expectations low. Even later, don't expect to finish together. Trying hard to do this reduces pleasure.
59. Don't swallow the redpill whole.
A lot of the stuff about alphas, betas, dominance, and submission you may have heard online is untrue or exaggerated. Male psychology is more complicated than people assume. Don't accept simplistic answers. I explain further here.
60. Use cowgirl more often.
Men like to see this position sometimes and most women don't adopt it often enough. Choose standard or reverse cowgirl depending on what shows off your best features. Don't wait for your lover to request it. Just do it.
61. Invite sex from behind more often.
A rear position is the most popular with men, including breast men. Men have much better visibility when they're behind you than you probably assume, because they can easily see over your shoulders. Don't forget this when you initiate sex.
62. Always curl in your lower back.
This might seem like a small thing, but it makes a very big difference to men. Much bigger than you think. You should always curl in your lower back. Especially always during sex.
63. Adopt this posture sometimes.
This posture has high sex appeal for all body types, but most women don't get it right. Your feet need to be out and upturned so they're on display, not curled under your rear.
64. Vocalize more during sex.
The female voice is an erotic trigger for men. Vocalize more during sex, and even continuously. However, this doesn't mean being loud and screechy all the time. Vocalize a lot, but at a low or medium volume.
65. Learn from erotic voice actresses.
You can hear examples of voice actresses at this link. Learn to imitate these when you're home alone to get the hang of it. When you're actually having sex, you don't need to copy. It should come from the heart.
66. Initiate sex around a third of the time.
Lots of girls let men do all the initiating. This is a big mistake. Showing off your sex drive and making your man feel desired are very important and will strengthen your relationship. To do this you need to initiate more often.
67. Initiate in the morning, not just at night.
Male hormones are early birds, not night owls. Seduction isn't just for night time either. Saturday and Sunday mornings are great times to turn your lover on.
68. Be aggressive occasionally.
It's true that submissiveness is attractive. But occasional aggression adds spice, demonstrates desire, and keeps men interested. This especially applies during sex. Older women should be more sexually aggressive than younger women.
69. Be aware that fellatio is much more seductive than cunnilingus and 69.
There's a lot of popular lore around position 69. It's not bad, but both men and women prefer fellatio. Cunnilingus also has less seductive power than fellatio, because it puts the wrong sex in the submissive position.
70. Offer fellatio at least twice a week every week if you're in a relationship.
This is the single most powerful tip on this long list. "Offer" is the key word. Don't wait for him to ask. Just do it. Learn how and why here.
71. Improve your fellatio technique by asking for genuine feedback.
Men will say nice things unless you ask them specific questions and demand honest answers. So to be good at fellatio, ask exactly what feels good and bad repeatedly and insistently. Videos can get you started, but that's all.
72. Use sexy expressions.
You've been told smiles are the most attractive, but it isn't true. Expressions containing pleasure, desire, and fear have the highest sexual power. Yes, fear. So don't just smile. Show him some really attractive expressions instead.
73. Don't worry about being "fetishized," "objectified," "Orientalized," or other fake problems invented by lesbian university professors.
These are all imaginary problems that will make it harder for you to enjoy your relationship, enjoy sex, and catch the best men. I've debunked them in detail here.
74. Ignore merchants of equality.
Seduction and sex aren't about equality. Insisting on equality just means everyone has equally bad sex. People who rant about equality would probably rather be shopping anyway.
75. Avoid bossy jobs.
Feminine careers like teacher, nurse, stewardess, etc. make you more attractive, while bossy jobs like corporate management make you less attractive. Interestingly, this doesn't apply to hobbies. Masculine hobbies can actually help attract attention.
76. Play dress-up.
Costumes are fun and keep things interesting. You don't have to do full roleplay, but you can if you want to.
77. Use juvenile props.
If you have a young-looking face, use stuffed animals, youthful accessories, and other props to create a juvenile ambience. This doesn't just appeal to pedos. The majority of men are triggered by the combination of youthful and mature features.
78. Be a bit bratty and invite a spanking.
This might be a funny tip, but it's still a great one for women who like to be dominated. I've explained that men don't like violence. But they do enjoy spanking for other reasons. This is a way everyone can get what they want.
79. Learn and regularly use attractive motions.
Attractive motions are an entire art form. Fortunately they're also easy to learn. They're very powerful, but few women use them. This is one of the most important tips.
80. Find attractive motions that suit your body.
Obviously the motion shown in the last tip won't work for everyone. You can find an encyclopedia of attractive motions here. Learn as many variations as you can, and test them on your lover to see what he likes.
81. Use attractive motions during sex, and to initiate.
If you get this right it's a big turn on for men, and sure to create excitement.
82. Use subtle attractive motions and poses on a regular basis, and especially around the house.
Attractive motions aren't just for initiating sex. They help you to create an erotic aura. So hint subtly at attractive motions whenever you're not at your workplace.
83. Walk with a swaying gait.
Practice this gait until you can imitate it exactly. To get started, wear heels and "walk on a line." Then tone the gait down for public use in real life. A subtle sway will make you stand out as more attractive. At home you can exaggerate it instead.
84. Don't just act naturally.
We're not born knowing everything by instinct. If you want to be good at ballet or tango, you need to learn. And that's true for beauty, motion, sex, and seduction too. Once you've learned, then it will feel natural. But not before.
85. Choose a style of seduction that suits your personality.
It's normal to feel a little awkward the first time you try something. But don't use techniques or motions that really feel alien and wrong. These two girls will seduce and move differently.
86. Learn to perform and get involved in the arts.
Artistic skill makes you more attractive. Musical skill has the biggest impact. Dance helps you move more attractively too. Even if you're clumsy or uncreative, learning to appreciate the arts still makes you a more desirable mate.
87. Exercise to build your glutes (only).
Do as many glutes resistance-training exercises as you can. Building some muscle in your upper thighs is okay too. Building any other muscle is unnecessary, and counterproductive if taken too far.
88. Keep your belly fat under control, regardless of your body type.
This image shows the maximum attractive belly fat even if you have the perfect fat distribution of an AI girl. More than this quickly becomes unattractive, and you should take special care to avoid it.
89. Don't undereat, regardless of your body type.
The weight shown here is excessively low and not ideal for anyone.
90. Find the best weight for you.
The ideal weight varies considerably from woman to woman. These two women have the same BMI, but left is attractive, while right is not. So the first step is to find the best weight for you. That's too complicated to explain here. Study this section of Dispelling Beauty Lies carefully.
91. Don't try to signal class by losing too much weight or mocking others.
Classy behavior, classy dress, classy speech, classy character. These are the real ways to be classy. Excessive dieting and mocking women with higher sex appeal is cheap, not classy, and it makes you less hot. Yes, men notice.
92. If your friends are dragging you down, get new ones.
Don't let yourself be bullied by frenemies or locked into a bad lifestyle by misguided online friends. Sometimes people who act like they're helping are holding you down.
93. Use an attractiveness-boosting face filter to get ideas for makeup and cosmetic surgery.
Faces are complex. Sometimes filters can be wrong, but sometimes they reveal easy improvements. Generic AI-girl faces are a good reference point to check whether a filter is leading you in the right direction.
94. Accept that imperfection is inevitable and seek grace.
Try to be the best you can and aim for the ideal, but don't obsess over your imperfections. That will only make you depressed and freeze you in place. This is an imperfect world. Don't despair. Seek grace.
95. Get subtle fillers if they suit your face.
Excessive lip fillers are trashy and have given big lips a bad reputation. However, subtle lip fillers often look good. Think about whether plumper lips would suit your face. And know when to stop. Other fillers can work too.
96. Get a nose job if you have a bad nose.
Most women don't need a nose job. But if you have an otherwise attractive face with an ugly nose, it will make a big difference and you should do it. Is your nose actually bad? Read the next tip before you jump to conclusions.
97. Don't fixate on flaws.
If you say a word enough times in a row it starts to sound like nonsense. The same thing happens if you fixate on a feature you don't like. This is especially true for your nose. When you feel yourself fixating, your perceptions are not accurate or balanced.
98. Get fat transfer from your belly to your butt and hips.
This technique is widely used by glamour models today, though its long-term impact isn't yet clear. It's an effective way to improve your hourglass. Just don't use it as a substitute for good weight management.
99. Get a Brazilian butt lift (BBL).
A BBL is more dangerous than other plastic surgeries. That's why it's tip #99, not #1. But the risk is still very low. Will it make you hotter? Yes.
100. Get a big boob job (BBJ).
This is #100 not because it's the most difficult or dangerous, but because it's the cherry on top. If the surgeon does his job correctly, a big boob job (~500-800ccs) will do more to increase the attractiveness of a slim woman than any other beauty intervention. For more information and many visual examples, read this section.
101. Share this webpage with at least two friends, or post it on social media.
You want your friends to be hotter, right?
Right?
Well, either way there's a price to pay for these amazing tips. If any of them work for you, you're obliged to share this page with at least two friends. Don't worry, they won't believe you anyway.
At the very bottom of this page you'll find a seduction quiz to help you keep track of which points you've covered and which you haven't. Make sure you check it out (and check them off) before you leave. Can you attain the coveted rank of odalisque? Let me know on social media. If you're a male reader and you're curious how your girlfriend measures up to the competition, fill out the quiz for her and compare her score.
You can read Dispelling Beauty Lies in full and from the top, starting here. It will give you a much more thorough and detailed understanding of beauty and seduction than this abbreviated list. Or you can explore the other fascinating essays, stories, and music elsewhere on this site.
Have fun being prettier, sexier, and more seductive!
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