Dispelling Beauty Lies: The Truth About Feminine Beauty

Dispelling Beauty Lies: The Truth About Feminine Beauty

The facts about feminine beauty are simple and intuitive, even obvious. But public discussion of the topic is dominated by lies that confuse many women. Oddly enough, intelligent women seem to be the most susceptible. This makes it harder for them to attract mates, subjects them to misguided self-doubts, and even damages their health. Their efforts to improve their appearance are in vain because they aim at the wrong target. All too often they simply give up on a game they could win if they understood the rules. But for fear of being impolite, men never correct their illusions.

In this comprehensive article I’ll dispel the confusion and tell you the straight truth about feminine attractiveness. In the closing section I’ll offer some basic practical advice.

Writing the truth instead of repeating familiar lies might offend some readers. But learning the truth will also enable clear-sighted women to improve their appearance and succeed at the game of beauty. So if you’re ready for real answers, read on: these are the best you’ll find.

I. Everyone lies
II. Learning from love goddesses
III. The science of sex dolls
IV. The truth about breast size
V. Common and uncommon tastes
VI. Market forces
VII. Drawing the right conclusions
VIII. Reality-based beauty tips

I. Everyone lies

Why are lies about beauty abundant?

Beauty is so socially important that almost everyone has a reason to lie about it.

The fashion industry uses tall, ultra-thin models to impress and intimidate customers. The tactic increases clothing sales, but these models aren’t the best examples of beauty. Similarly, paid beauty writers and influencers make their money from advertising fashion and beauty products. The conflict of interest discourages them from giving accurate advice.

Body-positive influencers sometimes praise the beauty of unhealthy figures in a way that seems disconnected from reality. They expand their audience through flattery and pandering, not honesty. Journalists lie about beauty to bolster their favorite social and political causes, which they consider far more important than the truth.

Men have incentives to lie about what attracts them as well. To be polite, or to flatter. Or even to show their good taste. Pretending not to notice overt sex appeal is a way of signaling refinement and class. It implies that they’re subtler and more perceptive than other men. But it also projects a false picture of what they really want.

Some insecure women deride any concept of beauty that doesn't match what they see in the mirror. Unable to acknowledge their own imperfections, they hope words alone can make them the fairest of all. Even the most beautiful and self-assured women will lie, whether to guard their secrets, to sabotage their competitors, or because they don’t really know the answers themselves.

Are you sure you can trust her?

“What makes a woman attractive?” is a milgram question. In other words, the social penalty for an unflattering answer is much higher than the reward for telling the truth. Because of this we simply can’t trust the answers we receive, even if they’re coming from friends and acquaintances.

In sum, everyone’s lying about beauty. And when you consider the motivations I’ve just listed, it shouldn’t be a surprise. We have very good reasons to lie!

All these lies can carry over into science. Scientific studies of beauty are often based on questionnaires. The scientists just perform a statistical analysis and repackage the results as verified truth. But survey responses on sexual topics are unreliable. Fancy mathematical language might make these studies sound authoritative, but it can't transform false answers into a true one. And there's a limit to how well a handful of numbers can characterize beauty.

Where sexual topics are concerned, even anonymous surveys are unreliable. People may lie outright, or they may give distorted answers because they feel uncomfortable.

So to reveal the truth about feminine attractiveness I won’t rely on surveys or professed opinions. Instead I’ll present direct evidence of men’s real preferences.

Why should men be the ones to judge what's beautiful? My approach here is simple and practical, not philosophical. The main purpose of personal beauty is to attract and satisfy a member of the opposite sex. There are other reasons to be beautiful, but they make a much smaller contribution to human happiness. That means men are the most important judges of feminine beauty, just as women are the most important judges of masculine beauty.

Your professors may have taught you to loathe the "male gaze." This crazy attitude will do you more harm than good. In fact, it's far worse than a beauty lie. You can't win by condemning the judges. Instead you should embrace your potential for beauty, and use it to cultivate a fulfilling romantic and sexual relationship.

Men: believe it or not, you don't have to behead them.

II. Learning from love goddesses

Let’s begin with the most enduring visual examples of feminine beauty: love goddesses. The representations below were created hundreds or even thousands of years apart by groups that spoke different languages and lived in different climates. Despite differences in their style, function, and degree of realism, they share common features.

The love goddesses typically have an hourglass figure, with a small waist, larger than average breasts, and pronounced hips. They have a moderate, healthy weight: fairly slim, but not skinny.

These two Minoan examples are more than three thousand years old.

This Babylonian love goddess is nearly four thousand years old.

Below are erotic odalisque paintings from 19th century America, France, and Italy.

In the next gallery you’ll find a selection of famous cartoons of attractive women that spans several decades: Sleeping Beauty, Jasmine, Jessica Rabbit, and three popular Japanese anime characters.

These images are in some cases exaggerated, but that’s the nature of cartoon art. On the other hand, most paintings and sculptures are sexually understated, partly because they’re made for public display in places where it would be inappropriate to inspire lust, and partly because unrestrained sex appeal would dominate men's attention and distract them from subtler elements of the artwork. Nevertheless, the cartoons, paintings, and sculptures of love goddesses share the same salient characteristics.

Cultural and regional variations do exist, but are smaller than you might assume. For instance, the ideal women preferred by American and Japanese men are more similar than real American and Japanese women!

Finally, here are three of the goddesses juxtaposed with human models.

So love goddesses and archetypes of beauty follow a definite pattern. On the other hand, they aren't truly identical. For instance, the Venus de Milo doesn't have the small waist evident in all the other examples. And we can't rule out the possibility that current tastes differ from traditional ones. To reliably determine what men find attractive today, we'll have to examine more evidence.

III. The science of sex dolls

If men won’t tell the truth when asked what they find attractive, how can we ever know? One way is to look at what they buy in secret when they're free to order exactly what they want. I’ve researched sex doll inventories at four online stores. Here are the results.

In mathematical terms, the most popular sex dolls have an average waist to bust ratio of 0.61, and an average waist to hip ratio of 0.61 too. In normal bust-waist-hips clothing measurements, that’s equivalent to 39-24-39. By contrast, the average Victoria’s Secret model has a waist to bust ratio of 0.75, a waist to hip ratio of 0.71, and clothing measurements of 32-24-34.

In plain language, the majority of men choose dolls with far more pronounced curves than lingerie models.

As you can see, the typical sex doll resembles the example images in the previous section, while the runway model is distinctly different: not only thinner, but also narrower at both the hips and chest. The runway model's greater height also causes her body to seem more elongated.

The differences are evident from the rear as well. In addition to wider hips, the typical sex doll has far thicker buttocks and thighs than a runway model, with no thigh gap. The overall appearance is rounded instead of flat.

Sex dolls might be inherently tawdry, but the example below shows their basic shape is both beautiful and respectable in a woman with the right clothing and presentation, even when judged by very conservative standards. In fact, sex dolls are much closer to the classic female figure of traditional painting than fashion models are.

You can see the same shape in these photos of vintage actress Sophia Loren, who measures 38-24-38. Her figure is beautiful and elegant, not trashy or cheap. She looks good in many different styles, including formal and business attire.

How can we confirm our observations? Let's consider erotic drawings. This is another case where men can choose exactly what they want, privately and without compromises.

The imaginary proportions of fictional women in manga and anime intended to appeal to men are strikingly similar to those of sex dolls. Fourteen female characters selected from the most popular erotic animes have a purported median waist to bust ratio of 0.62 and a median waist to hip ratio of 0.64, equivalent to clothing measurements of 39-24-37. Of course, the drawings themselves can be far more outlandish than these imaginary numbers, but the replication is interesting nonetheless. You can see an example figure below.

This character has fictional measurements equivalent to 40-24-38.

The rear view of popular erotic anime girls also confirms our observations. Just like sex dolls, their legs have a rounded shape and no thigh gap. They're thicker than many women expect.

It's important to understand that sex dolls actually give us a more accurate picture of male preferences than real glamour models. That’s because if men prefer multiple uncorrelated traits on the tail of the distribution in the female population, even the best real models will necessarily be a compromise with the mean. This phenomenon is a consequence of statistical laws, not male desire, and it leads us to underestimate the demand for rare traits.

So real glamour models can indicate the direction of male preferences, but not their extent. Imaginary women aren’t subject to the same limitation. This makes them especially useful for answering our next question.

IV. The truth about breast size

Women frequently ask: what breast size do men really prefer? Of all the questions about attractiveness, this is the one where men are most likely to lie when asked directly. In fact, they lie so often that some women begin to doubt the obvious answer.

This anecdote shouldn't be surprising. Men lie to flatter you, and those with extreme tastes are the most likely to lie.

Once again we can learn the truth if we look at what men choose in private. A large online sex doll retailer categorizes their dolls by breast size. The frequency of these sizes is as follows:

Frequency of breast sizes at a large online sex doll retailer. 21% small, 27% medium, 37% large, 14% huge (n=971). “Small” refers to a B-cup or less. For visual examples, see the next gallery.

Note that the terminology they use is misleading, since “small” refers to the average size of a slim woman, and "medium" is already large by everyday standards. That means around 80% of men choose what we normally call big breasts. Here are examples of each size according to the retailer's classification.

A second retailer categorizes dolls by cup size. The distribution of their inventory is visualized in the next graph. The result is essentially the same, but we can add a few additional details to our observations:

  • Only 2% of men voluntarily choose an A-cup.
  • 90% of men want at least a C-cup.
  • The average man wants an E- or F-cup.
  • 43% of men want a G-cup or more.

Below you'll find similar data drawn from an anime image site, once again followed by examples of each size. Men's order of preference is exactly the same as above. However, among this audience "large" breasts have an even bigger advantage over the other sizes.

Breast sizes of the most popular anime images (n=182) in a very extensive archive (n=1,654,169) over a 30-day period. 14% small, 21% medium, 59% large, 5% huge. For visual examples, see the next gallery.

Cartoons are prone to exaggeration, so we can't assume these translate directly to reality. Fortunately we don't need scientific exactness for our purposes here.

From the evidence above we can draw three reliable conclusions that will hold even if our data is imprecise. First, male preferences for breast size vary a great deal. Some men prefer small breasts, others enormous.

Second, the demand for larger sizes is much greater than the supply. The average male already prefers a size rarely found in nature, and the gap between supply and demand increases with size, without any practical limit. This means that “bigger is better” is true in an economic sense even if it isn’t true in an absolute sense. In simple terms, the most buxom women are highly valued because there aren’t enough of them to go around, not because all men prefer them.

The most popular erotic anime image on the day this article was written.

Third, the median preference is broadly similar to the size we’ve seen in earlier examples, and conforms to well-known stereotypes. It’s also close to the size of common glamour models like “page 3” girls or centerfolds. In fact, some vintage centerfolds (NSFW) are larger than most sex dolls, despite the extreme rarity of this size in the general population. So are these storefront mannequins.

When we consider both overall clothing measurements and bust size, here’s what the median sex doll looks like:

“Miss Average”

As an additional piece of evidence I’ll draw your attention to the top image search results for “best breasts” (NSFW). This search was conducted anonymously using Tor and DuckDuckGo to avoid contaminating the results with any past history. Most of the images are similar to the median sex doll shown above. A search for older images yields the same result.

Sex dolls, anime girls, centerfolds, stereotypes, search results, and common sense all agree. It doesn't matter if men deny it to be polite or to impress you with their refinement. The evidence they're attracted to large breasts is simply overwhelming.

V. Common and uncommon tastes

The diverse examples we’ve examined so far point toward a common male taste. This common taste is remarkably consistent between times and places.

To summarize, most men are attracted to women with a small waist, large breasts, a rounded rear, and prominent hips. They prefer women who have pronounced curves but aren’t overweight or obese. There is no evidence they favor the extreme thinness and tall, elongated figure of fashion models.

In fact, the shape preferred by men is strikingly different from the shape of fashion models.

Above center: a popular glamour model. Above left and right: two of Vogue’s “top fifteen models.”

The average woman is also strikingly different from fashion models, and resembles a sex doll more than a runway model, as the following table of measurements shows.

- Bust Waist Hips Cup
Average Woman (current, USA) 45 39 48 E
Average Woman (1951, UK) 37 28 39 B
Typical Sex Doll 39 24 39 F
Standard Runway Model 33 24 34 A

The average woman from 1951 is four or five inches wider than runway models in every measurement. Yet her bust and hips are almost the same as those of sex dolls or anime girls. Many women worry about their hips needlessly. Waist size and cup size are the biggest factors that set the most attractive figure apart from an average one.

The voluptuous hourglass figure preferred by so many men is a well-known stereotype, but oddly excluded from magazines and media that address the topic of fashion and beauty for women. The narrow and skinny ideal that replaces it is both less attainable and less attractive.

Of course, not all men are looking for an hourglass figure. Uncommon tastes are quite real. Everyone knows there are some who prefer the petite, girlish look, or the tomboy look, or the extravagantly well-endowed look, even though these tastes aren’t pervasive enough to be reflected in the statues of love goddesses. And a few men really do prefer runway models.

Unfortunately, some writers become too enamored of relativism. They use these real minority tastes to justify the pretense that the norm doesn’t exist and doesn’t matter. Then they go on to claim that everything is beautiful. This lazy attitude is intended to flatter your self-esteem, not help you succeed. You shouldn’t trust it.

VI. Market forces

Beauty might be relative. Does that mean anything goes? Practically speaking, no. Consider supply and demand.

To find and please a mate, it’s advantageous to have traits whose demand exceeds the supply. It’s disadvantageous to have traits whose supply exceeds the demand.

For example, a few men prefer obese women. But there are far more obese women than there are men who prefer them, so they have a hard time finding a mate. In contrast, there are more men who prefer a small waist than there are women who have one. So women with a small waist have a relatively easy time finding a mate.

Of course, if you’ve already found a mate, supply and demand is much less important.

While polls aren’t particularly reliable, the poll below gives a reasonable estimate of demand. The added black lines indicate approximate supply. The most advantageous traits are the ones with the biggest gap between these two.

According to the poll, the most advantageous set of traits is: hourglass figure, thin, oversized breasts, bubble butt. Once again, this matches the beauty examples we’ve given above. But the variety evident in the poll also indicates that there’s more than one way to be attractive. It’s not necessary to conform to the majority taste to succeed.

In fact, the appearance desired by the largest number of men isn't always the most advantageous. It's counterintuitive, but some women can maximize their value with rare looks the majority of men dislike! In these cases it's actually good to be weird.

Skeptical? The mathematical illustration below shows one way this can happen.

When the supply and demand for degrees of a given trait (e.g. eye size) fit normal curves with different means, it's best to “overshoot” the demand mean unless the demand curve has a much smaller standard deviation. This esoteric beauty tip is for brainy girls only.

If you can't follow this graph, don't worry. Just remember that you don't need to please everyone to be beautiful.

VII. Drawing the right conclusions

It's unfortunately common for women who read this article to draw the wrong conclusions from it. Realizing they'll never attain the ideal form desired by most men, they react by rejecting the ideal, rejecting men, or even rejecting themselves. Women are sensitive to any criticism of their appearance, so this emotional reaction is understandable. But it's also very foolish.

Imperfection is part of being human, not a reason to hate yourself. If you always score 100%, this only means you're being given tests that are too easy.

A beauty ideal actually needs to be unattainable. If it were attainable, it wouldn't be useful for distinguishing between the best potential mates, since all of them would have attained it. Not only is there no shame in falling short of the ideal, it's actually expected that everyone will fall short of the ideal. This is in the nature of things, and not your fault nor men's.

So, what's the right way to use the information you've just learned? By understanding the truth about feminine beauty, you can target your efforts to improve your appearance more accurately and stop wasting effort running in the wrong direction. The truth won't ensure you achieve perfection, but it will help you to get the most out of your innate potential. That's the topic of the next section.

VIII. Reality-based beauty tips

Here are a few simple, reality-based beauty tips. Many of them will be familiar. But since you now know the truth about feminine beauty, you can reconsider them with a fresh perspective. The basics of beautification aren’t magic. This advice will work for anyone, including you. (Male readers may want to skip this section and hold on to their illusions.)

Don’t be discouraged because the ideal body of a love goddess is out of reach. Modest improvements still help. Giving up on the game of beauty because you can’t win first place is a mistake. In fact, average-looking girls benefit more from improving their appearance than naturally gifted women do.

It’s also a mistake to rely entirely on your personality and intelligence to sell you as a mate. This is like trying to win a triathlon without learning how to swim. Instead, use your intelligence to improve your appearance. If you follow all the advice below, you might gain three points on the beauty scale. That's the difference between a six and a nine.

You can’t win by brains alone.

1. Diet and exercise.
2. Clothing and fashion.
3. Cosmetics and cosmetic surgery.
4. Individuality.
5. Beauty and aging.
6. The top seven ways to look more attractive.

1. Diet and exercise.

Excess weight harms your appearance and your health. In fact, weight is the single most important element of beauty under your control. But that doesn’t mean that anorexia or obsessive dieting are advantageous.

Men do prefer a small waist. However, losing too much weight shrinks your bust and hips more than your waist, and the overall effect becomes negative. The examples in this article show that a healthy, slim weight is best, but not less. Minimizing bodyfat by undereating won't maximize attractiveness. So if you're already healthy and slim, don't obsess over your weight. Women who weren't born with the potential for a 24-inch waist can't get there through brute force.

An ancestral diet and moderate exercise are enough for most women to maintain a healthy weight. If you’re overweight, reduce carbs and vegetable oils (including canola, corn, peanut, and even olive), and eat more meat. Further specifics about diet are very uncertain. Some people seem to benefit from eating more protein and less fat (more lean meats), but others do best eating more fat and less protein (more fatty meats and oils). Some people have a high tolerance for carbs, others low. To find out what works for you, you’ll have to experiment. Eliminating carbs entirely for a few months and then gradually adding them back to your diet is a popular technique for finding the right balance. If you need to lose a lot of weight but you’re not sure where to start, I recommend you try this first.

Exercise is less important to maintain a healthy weight than diet, but still worth some effort. For aesthetic purposes, a brief but intense strength training workout once or twice a week is sufficient. Extra strength training focused on the glutes might be helpful for women with a flat rear, but there are limits to what it can accomplish. Models with an attractive rear often credit it to exercise, but genetics and surgery are the real causes.

Not the result of exercise.

2. Clothing and fashion.

Because men have such a strong preference for a small waist, you should wear clothes that are fitted at the waist, not loose. This is especially true for women with the coveted "monarchiste" body type. These clothes can be hard to find today, when most of the population is overweight. Stretch fabrics or elastic bands are an easy shortcut solution, but in many cases a tailor is necessary. There are a few exceptions to this rule: very straight and thin women can do well with flowy clothes, and top-heavy women with a relatively thick middle may look best in an empire waist.

A monarchiste.

If you’re socially anxious and wear baggy or poorly fitted clothes to hide your body even though you have a healthy weight, stop! There are better ways to be modest. Wear snug but high-necked shirts, and long skirts that are tightly fitted at the waist. These look modest but still allow people to notice that you have an attractive figure.

Well-fitted clothes can be modest without looking sloppy.

Of course, all things being equal, it’s best to dress to an average degree of modesty in the area where you live, with modifications based on the occasion. You’ll have the most success with good men if your clothing is neither particularly modest nor particularly immodest. However, well-endowed women should dress a little more modestly than others in everyday circumstances, because advertising the obvious has a cheapening effect. They should keep in mind that the advantages of their body type will outweigh this limitation.

Contrary to what most beauty magazines, sites, and influencers claim or imply, up-to-the-minute clothing styles aren’t important. The fashion industry makes money by persuading you that you’ll be more beautiful if you buy the newest clothes, but this simply isn’t true. While it would look a little odd to go out in your grandmother’s dress, it doesn’t really matter whether you wear this year’s fashions or last year’s. Just choose clothes that fit, look pleasant, and flatter your body. Fashion should be fun, not a source of stress.

These clothes are more than fifty years old and still look excellent.

3. Cosmetics and cosmetic surgery.

Cosmetic surgery is more common than you might assume. Once again, everyone lies. Women who’ve had work done normally deny it. Men are ignorant on the topic. They criticize artificiality, then ogle surgically-enhanced models. Men might claim to care about “naturalness,” but in practice they’d rather see good results. Watch what people do, not what they say.

Most men prefer a breast size that’s rarely found in nature. In fact, it’s almost impossible to resemble some of the beauty examples in this article through natural means. One in twenty-five women now have implants, a number that’s increased steadily over time, and they’re especially common among glamour models who appeal to men. Today it's likely that the majority of slim women with large breasts have had surgical help.

Men are clueless about what's really natural. This model is surgically enhanced and wearing heavy makeup, but still creates a "natural" impression.

I won’t advise you for or against surgery. Weighing the risks is a personal matter. But the truth is, it usually works. Well-executed breast augmentations are difficult to distinguish from the real thing. (Note: all linked images in this section are unclothed). Most of the top search results for “best breasts” are augmented, and some have an openly artificial appearance. For comparison, these vintage centerfolds are a good reference example of the best natural breasts.

Breast augmentation example from a surgeon's website.

The effect of each implant size depends on your starting point as well as your overall body shape, but here you can see common surgical outcomes compared to examples from this article. Contrary to what you might assume, small implants aren’t necessarily more convincing than large ones. However, extreme, oversized implants have a distorted shape and should be avoided.

Seductive spirits from a Buddhist sculpture, circa 200AD.

Articles about breast augmentation usually ignore the reality that male preferences extend far above the popular implant sizes of 300-400cc. Men's median breast size preference seems roughly equivalent to 800cc. A substantial fraction of men prefer twice that or more.

Since rarity increases with size, it would be advantageous to exceed the average preference to meet the unsatisfied demand. But 800cc is already at the upper limit for reliable surgical results, and for most women it's simply not worth it to push the limit.

It's not possible for the average woman to achieve the size of this clothing store mannequin and maintain a natural shape.

If your goal is to maximize your appeal to men without undue risk, just find a trustworthy doctor and request the biggest size that can be achieved safely in a single surgery—usually around 600cc, though it varies from person to person. This size looks impressive and still retains a convincingly natural shape.

In practice, many women select smaller implants because they fear retaliation from jealous competitors or excessive attention from men. This is understandable, and when choosing a size you should consider your personal comfort level, just as you do when choosing clothes. The examples below show the range of results you can achieve.

Nose and eyelid surgeries are also fairly common, and can be very beneficial for some faces. The model at left has had a nose job as well as a breast augmentation. However, be aware that today’s professional glamour models take advantage of a wide array of additional cosmetic procedures that are impractical for the average woman. Typically they won’t admit this in public. You shouldn’t assume you can duplicate their results. One or two well-chosen procedures can give you a full point on the beauty scale, but trying to do too much increases the risk something will go wrong. It's important to use moderation.

You might be surprised, but studies actually show that cosmetic surgery provides lasting increases to happiness. The biggest gains come from breast surgery. However, studies can be wrong, so if you’re considering a procedure, talk first to trustworthy women who have gone through with it. Ask them if they’re glad they did, and ask your doctor to explain the risks. Men tend to give dishonest or uninformed answers, so in most cases you’re better off not listening to them.

Men’s ignorance about makeup is similar to their ignorance about cosmetic surgery. Don’t be misled. Those who claim to prefer women without makeup actually prefer “natural-looking” makeup, but don’t realize it. The reality is that all women look better in makeup. Fortunately you can get most of the benefits of makeup with a simple and efficient routine that doesn’t require hours every day. Makeup techniques are best learned from instructional videos, so I won't go into any detail here.

Maybe too much eyeshadow.

Note that not a single beauty example above has short hair. This isn’t an accident. A bob can look good on the right person, but it’s definitely a mistake to cut your hair any shorter. There are hardly any exceptions to this rule.

4. Individuality.

Individuality isn’t in itself very important for beauty. But it does help a little, and more importantly, makes it easier for the right mate to find you. Get the basics right, then show your personality in the details. You don’t need to exaggerate, a little is enough. You can do this with clothing choices, accessories, or even makeup.

As a general rule, it makes sense to cultivate and emphasize traits that are rare and in demand if you want to maximize your opportunities to find a good mate. Preferences do vary, so this doesn’t always mean conforming to the conventionally attractive ideal. Appealing to a minority taste can work too. Remember, it doesn't actually matter if most men are indifferent to you as long as the remainder value you highly.

At times the right strategy is simply to make the best of what you already have. However, it’s important that you don’t use this as an excuse to neglect basics or maintain unhealthy habits.

5. Beauty and aging.

No one seriously doubts that women are more beautiful when they’re younger. However, the claim that they hit a "wall" at thirty and suddenly turn ugly isn't true. It’s possible for older women to remain attractive, so you shouldn’t give up just because you reach a certain age.

The techniques I’ve mentioned in this article work for older women just as well as younger women, and may even offer older women greater benefits. Careful attention to diet and exercise is essential. Of course, surgery and makeup also help.

The most common beauty mistake among women over forty is adopting a short hairstyle for a “fresh and youthful look.” This almost invariably has the opposite effect. Don't dabble in androgyny when your fertility is fading.

If you can avoid or correct sagging, feminine curves remain a great asset. Here's an admirable example.

Age 54. Contrary to what you may have heard, short hair does not look better on older women. Implants work for older women just as well as younger.

Nevertheless, until rejuvenation technology improves, there are limits to what can be achieved, and it’s important to be realistic. Surgery can’t truly reverse aging, and trying too hard to erase the years will do more harm than good.

No woman looks better at forty than at twenty-five, and while you age, the most eligible males are snatched away from the mating market by other women. If you want the best long-term partner you can get, you shouldn’t waste time. Those who tell you otherwise don’t have your best interests at heart. Find him sooner rather than later, then use modern technology and good health practices to retain your beauty longer.

6. The top seven ways to look more attractive.

To summarize, here's a simplified checklist of the seven most effective ways to look more attractive. These may seem obvious, but hardly any women cover them all.

1. Maintain a healthy weight.
2. Wear makeup.
3. Wear long or medium-length hair.
4. Wear clothes that fit properly at the waist.
5. Do strength training focused on the glutes.
6. Get breast implants if you're comfortable with the risks.
7. Get a nose job if you have a distinctly bad nose.

Start at the top and work down. Points 1, 4, 5, and 6 will help you develop or enhance an hourglass figure. Points 2, 3, and 7 will take care of the rest.

You can go beyond this list, of course. But you'll quickly run into diminishing returns. One of the most common beauty mistakes is to obsess over irrelevancies. Conventional beauty advice reinforces this mistake by encouraging you to worry about details that don't matter so you buy stuff that doesn't help.

I've kept it simple here for good reason. Get the basics right and don't stress about the rest.


Perverse social dynamics mean that beauty lies will always persist. But by sharing this article you can help to spread the truth, and help more women to look their best. That’s good for men and women alike. So if you know someone who might benefit from learning the truth about feminine beauty, please send them a link, or better yet, post one on your social media account. If you're a male and don't feel comfortable explaining to women what you find attractive, just show them this article instead.

It may be irritating to watch society stubbornly clinging to beauty lies, but keep in mind that you can turn its errors to your advantage.

Today women are taught that it's wrong to make any effort to please the "male gaze." The media and fashion industry fill the resulting void with false idols of their own invention. But the male gaze is the most practically important yardstick for feminine beauty. Women who recognize this and learn what men find attractive have an opportunity to snatch the best mates away from their competitors and build stronger, happier, more lasting relationships.

Long hair can be useful as well as beautiful.

The first and most difficult step is to accept and acknowledge your own faults with good grace. Very few can do this! Then, while other women succumb to their biases, narcissistic delusions, and the illusions promoted by the media, you can get ahead by making use of the information I've presented here.

You don't need to convince anyone with words. Men will react to true beauty instinctivelyand you'll win the game that really matters.

Good luck, dear female readers. And now that you’re prepared for your new life as an odalisque, it’s time to travel to the Orient!

An additional note. Some claim there’s a conflict between “beauty” and “hotness,” and one detracts from the other. This is false. “Hotness” complements beauty rather than detracting from it, except at physical extremes that appeal to few men. For the sake of simplicity I don’t bother distinguishing the two in this article.

For the remarkable tale of my wicked rise to almost absolute power, including bonus tips for the plundering and profitable resale of Occidental virgins, read my Memoirs of an Evil Vizier.

You may also enjoy my article on beauty lies in the art world: Against Good Taste.